“Come out to dinner with all of us!”

“Let’s go get drinks!”

“Do you want to hangout on Sunday?”

We have so many different choices to make in life. Should I run today or skip and have fun with friends? Should I work on my business or relax all day? Should I go out tonight or should I stay in and have a movie night?

We need to learn to be more selfish at times. Focus on yourself. You control your own destiny. This doesn’t mean you have to be a complete dick and only care about yourself and no one else. This helps you select what you do more carefully. Instead of drinking on a Saturday night, hang in with the family and enjoy that time together. Work on yourself after work instead of going out with friends. You won’t ever make everyone around you happy so you might as well focus on what makes YOU happy. 

Take a minute to think about what’s really important to you in life. Maybe it’s family, your health, business, friends, sports, etc. Make a list of the 3 most important to you specifically. Whenever something comes up or you’re asked to do something figure out if it relates to any of these 3 things. If not decline the offer. Now, every now and then you should go out and have fun. But, the majority of your time should be spent doing things that are most important to you. This will inevitably eliminate people from your life. Remember though that it’s for the best. This may sound ruthless but if they don’t align with what’s most important to you they’re wasting your time. So, be more selfish now. It will help you realize what matters most to you and save you a ton of time on useless activities. You’re better off that way. 

“The sad thing is most people have to check with someone before they do the things that make them happy. We’re all passing through; the least we can do is be happy, and the only way to do that is by being selfish.” -Gene Simmons